Gender Violence; why have we forsaken the Men?

 Why have we forsaken the Men?

We have seen and heard many movements, awareness, discussions and other sorts kicking, speaking and doing almost everything to curb violence against women and to prevent their victimization.

Countless women have reported violence of all kind especially physical violence from their partners of which some led to deaths. you won't be shocked to know that when you surf the internet for information on gender violence, 90% of the result will be centered on violence against women.

Among the very few cases that were reported on male victimization were cases that led to their deaths. On 2nd of February, 2016, there was a reported case of a lawyer who brutally stabbed her husband to death in Ibadan. Also, Just saw few weeks ago on the 18^th of November was a report on Maryam who allegedly stabbed her husband to death. News has it that, that wasn’t the first time she had attempted to stab him and has even abused him in his home.

Now, my questions are

1. if he hadn’t died, would we have heard of the abuses he suffered in his home?

2. why are male victims silent about their victimization?   

                                                                                                              

From the chats interview I had with some persons, whose names would be withheld showed that just as we have women in an abusive relationship, men are also victims of abusive relationships.

I had the chat interview with 60 participants which included the married and unmarried, 30 male participants and 30 female participants. The following were the questions asked:

1. Have you ever slapped you partner or being slapped by your partner

2. If you get slapped by your partners what will you do

3. Will you say the reason why you have never had a domestic relationship is because of your good and gentle nature?

Of the 30 male participant that was contacted, 24 responded, 5 of the 24 participant have been slapped by their girlfriends and 2 of the 5 have also slapped their girlfriends. 19 of the 24 participants have never been slapped by their girlfriends and have never slapped their girlfriends. 15 of the 19 claimed they can’t do anything to warrant being slapped, (2) will slap her back if slapped, (1) will walk away because he loves his girlfriend, (1) will walk away because he can’t lay hands on women.

Of the 30 female participants that was contacted, 25 responded, 3 of which has been slapped by their boyfriends, 1 of the 3 said she slapped him back, 22 of the partcipants have never been slapped by their boyfriends, 16 of the 22 will end the relationship if they are slapped, 2 of the 21 will set him up to be dealt with, (3) will slap him back immediately, (1) will warn him never to try it again.

                                                                                                                                                                       

A male participant who said he retaliated expressed the he had received countless slaps from his girlfriend before eventually slapping her back and when he did, she reported him. He added that he regretted his action saying only weak men retaliates and mad men beat their partners every chance they get but he concluded by saying women are the frontiers of relationship violence.

A female participant in her words said “Bad people can be male or female, victims can be male or female but the focus is on bad men and female victims”

She added “Abused men are ashamed of coming out, some think it’s impossible for men to be abused and raped. It’s such a shame that this happens to men.”

Men, you need to realize that there is no shame in coming out to report their cases of physical violence, likewise, Activist should be aware that relationship violence cuts across both gender and if you have to preach, the should advocate against gender violence as opposed violence against women.

Also, if you have a violent partner especially when you are not married to the person, gently call off the relationship except you have two life. You don’t have to wait until afterlife because there is more to life than dying with knife holes in your chest and a swollen face.

SAY NO TO GENDER BASED VIOLENCE

By

Aramide Adedeji

Gender and Crime

Among other predictors of criminal behavior is the gender factor. The gale group Inc. in 2002, reported that men commits more crime and this cuts across all groups, societies and nearly every crime category.

Has this changed overtime?
Do women still commit fewer crimes compared to their male counterparts?

Some have said that these questions is no longer what we need answers to but why crime rate among the female folks is gradually overtaking the male gender. Afterall, there is a popularly said adage that goes 'what a man can do, a woman can do better'. Now we hear of women engaging in unprecedented history of criminal activities.

However, others still hold firm to the idea that women commits fewer crimes and whatever illegal a woman does, she does to provide for her family and make sure her children are brought up in a stable environment.

Now the question are
1. Do women really commit fewer crimes than men?
2. Are the figures misleading?

Some sociologists  have suggested that females offences are constantly under recorded by the authorities.

SHARE YOUR VIEWS

Speak up brother; male sexual harassment

Sexual harassment of the male gender is more common than we think .
sexual harassment is an unwelcome sexual advances and request for sexual favours.
when we hear this term, what comes to mind is a picture of a man harassing a woman without considering the vice versa.

It is not false to say women harass fellow women, women harass men and men harass fellow men.

Statistics have shown that men do not report their experience because they believe they won't be taken seriously. Also, the society requires them to be manly and as such they shouldn't feel harassed by sexual advances.

Gender equity should not be one sided, While we fight for the women, let's protect the men.

November Criminals

Crime movie Lovers, Have you seen the movie "November Criminals" ?

Are police officers doing their jobs?

Just few hours ago in portharcourt,  a friend of mine witnessed kidnapping and robbery. According to her, police officers were present, but did nothing other than watch.
what is responsible for the nonchalant attitude of police officers towards their duties?
  your opinion counts.

Today's Question

Which social class commits crime the most in Nigeria? Give reasons for your answers.

To me, the upper class commits most of the crimes and even recruits the lower class to help. Most often the types of crime the upper class are involved in are those who do not attract necessary attention or takes a long term to discover, such as Tax evasion, Fraud and other high Monetary frauds. They then recruits the lower class to commit crime such as Murder, kidnapping and other violent crime.

On the other hand, the lower class are involved in picking pockets, street violence, frauds e.t.c

From the surface, lower class are seen to commit more crime, because they are being arrested on a daily basis but that is an illusion.

What is your view?

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